Alex In Wonderland

Don't Nag Please...

I know - I went MIA for a while and with good reason...

Work began to consume my life and I have been teaching myself all kinds of lovely new technical programming skills... ZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

So we decided that we needed to look at other options.

First of let me say that I had no idea that the whole considering other options thing would actually be so hard. Previously when making life changing decisions it was not a consideration what other people would think about it. Generally it was a case of tough s**t for anyone else and I would just go ahead and do it, so consequently I have ended up all over the world for one reason or another. Coming to the particular part of the world I am now was not so much a matter of choice as a matter of love - simply put I wanted to be with my wife and so I moved here despite knowing that for me, personally, it would not be the best decision.

Sadly this pattern has continued for the time I have been here. I do a job not because I enjoy it but because it was convenient and suddenly I think I realised that I had never really asked Sally what she felt about any of this. The job was and still is depressing me to the point where I am getting home deeply dissatisfied and unhappy. Not a good situation to be in and you cannot but help to feel a little sorry for the other people involved in your life. Sometimes it is impossible to separate work from home and vice versa - all aspects that make up your life have an effect on all the others.

So I talked to Sally and we decided that I should look at doing something that I enjoyed and that would improve the quality of life for all of us. With Star being at an age where changing schools would not be an issue for her we decided that the overall improvement would far outweigh the potentially negative effects for her and so I cast around.

I was pleasantly surprised.

Despite being out of the game (so to speak) in my chosen field for 3 years it seemed I was still in demand. OK, we looked up and down the length of the country but I was able to pretty much pick and choose interviews in areas that interested us and now we are moving into the final stages of these interviews. The most intriguing aspect of these is that one is abroad - still in the EU but not something that (to be perfectly honest) I would have expected Sally to have gone for. Typically this is the one that she is the most keen on!

Now we are looking at taking the Capricious clan elsewhere. I want to be happy in my work but more importantly I want Sally and Star to be happy in their environment and for us to give our children the opportunity to grow up somewhere that is better than what either of their parents grew up with. We should be better off in every way possible, but the future whilst tinged with a certain amount of uncertainty, is now looking like an exciting one.

Posted by AlexC at February 27, 2006 02:19 PM